The Financial Life Skills Blog for Families by Nancy Phillips

What Childhood Money Beliefs are Impacting Your Financial Well-Being?

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sat, Jun 10, 2017

400_pxls_NP_0503_goldcrop_march_2011.jpgWe all wonder why we do certain things with our money, smart or otherwise, and why other people do things very differently with theirs. Maybe your spouse or sibling approaches their financial life very differently than you do. What's the basis of our financial decision making and why is it so frustrating to figure out why we do what we do?

To put it simply, our childhood experiences and the interpretations of the conversations and situations we see around us form the basis of our money belief system. That belief system is hard wired into our subconscious when we're in our developmental years, and there are some very powerful beliefs that we can develop that may not serve us so well once we're actively managing our own lives. Most Kindergartners aren't quite ready to navigate everyday financial decisions, which is why we all need to be aware of the views and habits we're coming into adult life with.

The wonderful folks at asked me to write about some of the most common and damaging beliefs that we carry around from childhood. How's your financial well-being? Are any of these beliefs impacting your life negatively? You can only change what you're aware of. (read entire article here)


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Why I Let My Kids Save Up Their Own Travel Spending Money

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sun, Apr 02, 2017

 Happy Spring! It’s time for sunshine, rain, flowers and sometimes spring break travel.

Me.jpgToday’s post is about a recent vacation I took with my children, Natasha and Max, to Southern California. We had a fantastic time, and learned some great life lessons. We also experienced how we all react to consumerism at its most powerful state, those attractive and awesome things we want NOW! I’ll get more into that later.

Over a year ago I let my kids know they would need to save their own spending money for this trip. I said I would cover the basic needs of travel, food, lodging and fun times (like surfing lessons), but they were responsible for buying any “stuff” they wanted. While this may seem like cruel and unusual punishment to some parents, allowing them to control the preparation and outcomes of their spending decisions was a powerful learning decision for both of them – and they both came home with purchases they loved as well as some leftover cash!

This is real life stuff, and too often our children don’t get the opportunity to make these decisions until they’re out on their own - when devastating mistakes can happen quickly.


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So, Why did I let my kids save their own travel spending money? Here’s the lowdown:

 1. To learn to use cash before they get plastic – practice doesn’t make perfect, practice makes permanent. Whether it’s good habits or bad, when the brain does the same thing over and over, it becomes habit. Using cash heightens awareness of what's actually being spent. Combine that with tracking your spending (proven to be one of the most effective habits to enhance financial well-being), and you've got the basis of understanding cash flow, something that isn't common practice now with most spending occuring on plastic and phones. In this case, it was just a matter of having a couple of envelopes on hand to keep the receipts and note the amounts. Trip Receipts.jpg

Letting our kids practice with small amounts of money to develop good decision making, and learn from their mistakes and successes, is critical to long-term personal financial success. 

  2. To learn to deal with the “to buy or not to buy” drug rush of desire – emotion is the real reason most consumer purchases are made, and vendors know that. When we enter a store and see something we like, the motivation center of our brain is flooded with “upper” chemicals that make us want to buy. It’s that emotional state that can be devastating financially and we’re all vulnerable to it. Learning how to deal with this and get ourselves back to a logical thinking state is key, our kids desperately need to understand this too. This video shows more at the 8 second point.

3. To learn the value of things – when it’s the parents money getting spent, the child doesn’t feel or recognize the investment being handed over. It’s totally understandable, we don’t feel the true cost of things when other people pay for us either. Also, when our kids buy their own things, it allows them to learn about good quality items and poor quality items more quickly. All of these lessons are learned through experiential learning not just watching. It's just like learning a sport, you need to do it yourself for the real learning to occur. 

 4. To learn when it's gone it's gone – opportunity cost

Making great choices helps lead to a great life. In this fast paced world with tens of thousands of products available at every turn, it’s critical our children learn to prioritize and really think about what they want and why. This comes from defining their values, dreams and goals.

Plus, spending money you have in your wallet is one thing, spending money you don’t have on consumer items is something totally different and very common for our society today. Avoiding overspending on consumer items is one of the most valuable lessons our kids can learn. Why?  Because unfortunately there are plenty of high interest loan products out there wanting to get your child’s business in the years ahead if they go into debt. The problem is, once a person is in a cycle of high interest debt, it becomes a vicious cycle that can be very difficult to get out of. This is not something we want our kids to experience, it affects health, relationships and all the key areas of life.

5. To practice their everyday math skills

 This isn’t just about adding and subtracting, while those are very important skills, these experiences also included figuring out tips on a bill (percentages), currency conversions (again percentages) and creating a spending plan so they didn't run out of money before the end of the trip. This type of practice rarely occurs in today’s world unless the parents give their kids the opportunity. Ever been in a store or restaurant when the cash register broke and the cashier was having trouble making the proper change? Yes, me too.

Learning how to calculate percentages is a real life skill that can be used in everything from sports to cooking, and forms a basis of knowledge for understanding interest charged on a credit card or, on a more positive side, returns on an investment. 

6. To learn to save - delay gratification and learn self-control

Numerous large studies show that self-control in young children is directly related to their financial success in adulthood. Allowing our kids to set goals and save for them is one of the most effective lessons we can teach which will lead directly to helping them develop good financial habits in the long-term.

7. That the pre-purchase “high” wears off – quickly

Max nearly spent the majority of his savings twice at the beginning of the vacation, once for a jelly (see-through) skateboard and once for a Go-Pro. I gave him time to think things through and re-affirmed that I wouldn’t be funding the purchase, or part of it. In under five minutes after walking out of the stores he was able to list the reasons why it wasn’t good timing to buy the product, what features they were missing or why he wouldn’t use it much. Ten minutes later it was as if he hadn’t seen them in the first place! We were off to the next exciting adventure.

8. To learn the difference between needs and wants

These days the line between needs and wants can seem blurrier and blurrier. Having these discussions with our kids helps them understand what a true need really is (not the newest app!). It can make your life much simpler if you clarify that you are responsible for providing needs, the wants they can save for or put on their wish list. As parents we have to get past the guilt factor for buying ridiculous amounts of stuff for our kids. It doesn’t help them in the long-run, in fact it can make their adults lives much harder and less fulfilling. There is extensive research on the entitlement attitude by Dr. Bredehoft and it doesn’t work out well for those kids in the long run.

9.  Gratitude

The best way to appreciate things is to ensure you take time to reflect on them. At the end of each day we discussed all the exciting, wonderful things we saw and did such as visiting friends, and while writing down our spending details, talked about the fun new items we purchased. Gratitude has been proven to increase happiness and it's more important than ever to do this with our children. It's way too easy to fall into the "not enough" trap in today's world.  Here's a gratitude list you can use with your kids.

10. Super bonus: To learn yet again that life experiences and relationships create longer lasting and more meaningful memories than things.

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 Am I happy I stuck with this decision to let them manage their own spending money? Absolutely Yes! They appreciate their purchases far more than they would have if I bought the items, and they learned a lot of great life lessons along the way. The hardest part was for me  - to not cave in and buy stuff for them.  I'm really glad I didn't though, it would have robbed them of all these learning opportunities. 

Cheers, please share thoughts or suggestions!



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The Wela Way: Best Life Questions

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sat, Feb 11, 2017

NP presenting Kelowna 2012.jpgWant to live an awesome, meaningful life instead of one of mediocrity and regret? Successful people -  those who achieve physical and mental well-being, great relationships, financial freedom and make great contributions to our society, have a number of key life habits in common. One of those habits: they ask themselves big questions, and take the time, effort and responsibility to answer them.

This list of questions below are are some of the biggest. I've heard or read these in the past in resources shared by great teachers, authors and speakers such as Brendon Burchard, Jack Canfield, Anthony Robbins, Vishen Lahkiani and financial and neuroscience experts such as T. Harv Eker and John Assaraf. 

These questions won't necessarily all apply to your life at any one time, but it's a great list to go to when you have a big decision to make, you feel stuck or you just want to crank your life fulfillment up a notch. Put your favorite question above your desk or somewhere visible. I have #20 on a huge poster board on the wall in my office.

Enjoy and take your time going through them, at least one will probably jump out at you.  I think you’ll find some incredible answers come from within – I know I have.


  #1. What would I love my life to be like? 

sun in hands best life blog.jpg           #2. How will I get there?

           #3. What do I need to learn, to do what I want to do?

           #4. Is this what I want to be doing? If not, why not?

           #5. What question should I be asking myself at this point in life?

           #6. If I make this decision, how will it have affected my life in five years?

           #7. How do I want to be different this time next year? Why?

           #8. What is my body/intuition telling me?

           #9. How can I laugh more?

           #10. What am I grateful for?

           #11. What beliefs do I have that are outdated and not serving me?

           #12. What beliefs do I need to have in place to support my intentions and dreams coming true?

           #13. What do I love enough to do for 10,000 hours?

           #14. What could I do more efficiently and waste less time?

           #15. What is my most productive time of the day?

           #16. What would I do if I wasn’t afraid?

           #17. Are these thoughts helping or hurting me?

           #18. Who am I? I am …   As Wayne Dyer brought to the awareness of millions of people, "I am…" Are two of the most important words you can ever say, as what follows it is how you define yourself. Be thoughtful and aware when you use these terms and determine who you really do want to be.the rest of your life best.jpg

            #19. Is this getting me closer to or further away from where I want to be (my goal/my intention)?

            #20 And finally, one of my absolute favorites: "how do I want to contribute to this world?"


I hope you found these questions thought provoking and useful. Please share if you have a great question you've found valuable in your journey. 

The key takeaway here is that personal growth, joy and fulfillment never has to stop. If we're bored, it just means our goals aren't big or inspirational enough for us to get excited about ( I can't remember who said that but I think it's great!).

Which of these questions would you share with your children? Which one hit you in the heart and gut?

Hope to hear from you,

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Creating an Extraordinary 2017: Soul Goals versus Resolutions

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sun, Jan 01, 2017

400_pxls_NP_0559_whitecropx22EFA3A8-1.jpgHappy New Year! I hope you're excited at all the possibilities that exist for you this coming year. You may have been listening to friends, family and radio show hosts talking about resolutions and why are why they don't work.

I’ve found this topic tugs at me because now it’s talked about almost as a joke, that it’s really unlikely anyone will be successful. It's kind of sad and I feel the beginning of the year is the perfect time to start off an exciting new journey with inspiring goals and dreams. This short post is to share some of my thoughts and learnings of what works or hasn't worked for me in the past and present.

Research shows that at the end of the year only about 8% of people achieve their New Year's resolutions. So why is it that resolutions don't work for the majority?  Well it appears to be mainly due to the fact that most people set resolutions based on what they feel they “should” do. As Anthony Robbins famously said, “quit shoulding all over yourself."

When you set a goal that comes from a place of left brain logic and no inspiration, there just isn't the motivation to continue with the drudgery through twelve months. The other big reason for failure appears to be "dreaming too small," often we simply don’t dream big enough to really excite us about what the next chapter of our life could be like. We have to remember not to let our circumstances define our dreams, sometimes easier said than done right? If we reverse the story, then we can have our dreams and goals define our future circumstances. Then the sky is the limit!  

Be clear on this: It must excite you

The first step to making 2017 the best year yet is to decide what you really want, in detail. If thinking about this dream life gives you a deep feeling of excitement and inspiration, that's a great sign - clarify the detail and write it down. Your “why” must be big enough to motivate you and keep you motivated, basically you must go deep within or it isn’t going to happen.just go.jpg

This step allows you to find out not only if you have set your intentions high enough, but what you need to learn and how you need to grow to make it happen. For example, instead of saying "I need to earn an extra $10,000 this year," you might say “I am excitedly preparing for my dream xxx by attracting two new clients that will increase my income by $10,000.” Whatever works for you, as long as it fits well within your personal values and makes you feel deeply excited – not what you “should” do based on culture, other people’s opinions or worse, guilt.

So, what do you want? More family fun time? Travel? To grow personally and spiritually? Better health so you can run a race? To develop your career in a different direction? This is a chance to write your life script. What matters most to you? What would you love your life to be like?


Step two is all about belief. You have to believe deep down that you can actually make this happen. This is critical for your future outcomes. You can choose to create an extraordinary life versus one of mediocrity, it really is all in your hands - and your mind! You don’t need other people’s approval, it all comes directly from you.


Step three is to decide how to start, just one step. All great accomplishments are made up of thousands of baby steps, you just have to decide on what small step each day will move the needle for you towards your inspiring goal. When I went to Brendon Burchards Expert's Academy a few years ago I can remembering him saying, "You might “know” this stuff, but are you doing it?" Great question from a great mentor.

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Stick with it, your dream life depends on it

Step four is to be consistent and repetitive in the visualization of your dream life, and how the small actions required to reach your soul goal will enable the continued path of growth and fulfillment. Each day there are opportunities for action that can compound your efforts and the speed to which you reach your inspiring goal! Decide and take action, sounds simple but there's a reason perseverance is known as one of the key traits of success - most people won't keep doing what it takes.


Step five is be grateful for what you already have while you excitedly prepare for the future. This mindset puts you in perfect harmony to make your goals and dreams happen. One of the most powerful daily habits of highly successful, happy people is to write in a daily gratitude journal. It only takes a couple of minutes in the morning and evening and is a fabulous way to bring in and end the day on a very positive note. This is the statement I use:

Today I am so thankful for …

If you aren't already doing this daily and you give it a try, you will be amazed how much happier and more peaceful you feel. I can speak personally about it because I started doing it in writing two years ago and it's AWESOME!  Also, it has been scientifically proven to make a person feel happier and more fulfilled in this "more is better" world.

*Dream    *Believe     *Do  (and keep doing)      *Be Thankful - That's It!

The beginning of this year gives you the opportunity to fall in love with your life all over again, you can create the masterpiece you dream of.

Happy 2017, have fun and feel the joy life wants you to experience! 

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Top Ten Tips for First Time Investors

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sun, Oct 16, 2016

Nancy_Tahsa_and_Max_st_Whislter_mtn_aug_2015-1.jpgThis isn’t your typical first time investor blog post. When Personal Capital contacted me to see if I would be interested in writing a post on this topic, my mind initially went towards the idea of discussing actual investments. Not surprising right?

But that's not what I'm going to do. I believe that's not what you immediately need to know if you're a first-time investor.

There are a few key life tips that I've learned through my research and personal experience that are fundamental concepts I want to share with you today. I hope these tips will help give you some perspective before you invest your hard-earned money.

  1. Don’t overspend

It's important to point out the fact that a huge portion of the population will never invest or have financial freedom because they are too deep in consumer debt. The easiest way to ensure you’ll have money to invest is to consistently put a portion of your income into a separate subaccount. It's there for you when you're ready and confident to take the step of into investing in a specific asset. Happy high net worth people tend to divide their money into four main categories, what I call the GISS Method, which begin as young as five years old. These categories are give, invest, save and spend. These people consider putting money into investing as important as paying the mortgage and their basic expenses. Dividing your money into categories from a young age can help build powerful wealth habits that will prevent you from overspending and going down a devastating financial path.

  1. Learn your cash flow first

What expenses do you have, and how much is going out per month versus how much is coming in? Until you are highly aware of your own financial situation, investing is at best a shot in the dark, at worst throwing money away. If you’re paying 19.99% on a credit card and making 4% return on your investments, you’re losing money. First pay down your debt as fast as possible so you aren’t sinking with high interest payments.

  1. Start early and invest consistently

The difference between starting when you’re in your late teens or early twenties, versus starting a decade later can result in massive differences by the time you hit fifty or sixty years old. Someone who starts investing at age nineteen or twenty and invests for tens years can outperform someone who starts ten years later and invests double the total amount over double the length of time. Why? Compound interest. The interest growing on itself and adding up over time. There is a reason Einstein called it the “eighth wonder of the world.” 



  1. Don't expect perfection, it’s about progress.

Every successful financial investor has made mistakes in the past. The key is they work to learn from the “mis-takes” so they don't repeat them - and they don't quit investing. Typically they will come up with a system to follow as they begin to learn what works and what doesn't. So keep track, and don't get discouraged. Easier said than done sometimes, but your future financial freedom depends on it. 

  1. Diversification

A word commonly used in the investing world, it is a method to reduce risk by owning a variety of investments within your portfolio. The old “don’t put all your eggs in one basket” philosophy. Howevermany people still get hurt when financial cycles go down because they have only diversified within one asset class. Stay clear of this mistake. Diversifying within only oil stocks is not a truly diversified portfolio. High net worth individuals tend to be involved in numerous assett building investments including the stock market, commodities, real estate or owning their own businesses - often all of the above.

  1. Stocks and bonds have different levels of risk

Stocks represent ownership in a corporation, and bonds are a type of long-term debt you can provide to an organization, which they promise to pay back on a given date. Stocks are known as being more volatile. Bonds are considered to have more security, but not as much potential upside. Typically younger investors will hold more stocks and less bonds because stocks theoretically have a higher risk and potentially a greater return long-term. However, holding 50% stocks and 50% bonds is not truly an equal split, precisely because the stocks are much riskier, and are dependent on the specific stocks you own – and their individual levels of risk. As you set up your portfolio, ask questions and learn about your real risk exposure.

  1. Don’t try to beat the market, you won’t

The majority of trades are now done by highly sophisticated computer programs. In fractions of a second stock values can change significantly. Don't worry about trying to take on this challenge. As phenom investor Warren Buffet says, “invest in a broad-based index fund that tracks the S & P 500.”

  1. Find out the fees

Fees can eat up your profit if you’re not careful. A management fee is the amount paid to a fund manager and may include a trailing commission, which is paid to the advisor’s company that sold the fund. This is meant to cover the cost of giving advice to the client but many clients don’t realize they are paying it. It is often the largest fund expense. Then there is the MER – the management expense ratio. It covers the management fee plus the fund’s operating expenses administratively. Note that some mutual funds also charge a front- or back-end “load.” This fee is paid to the advisor’s firm for selling the fund and is separate from the MER. Be aware of your fees so you know what your investment return really is.

  1. High net worth individuals tend to have successful mentors

They have listened and learned from the experiences of others. Before you go out looking for a specific asset, talk to 10 millionaires, not people who just make a good income, but people who have invested well and maybe already financially free. Ask them what their first really effective financial move was when they were young and just beginning to become financially successful, and what factors are important to look at now. Find out what they think are the most important two or three investments to own to have a solid financial future. “How” and “what” questions are very powerful in determining what steps you might consider taking in your financial future. Many first time investors don’t ask questions of people most capable of answering accurately. If you don’t have access to any millionaires at the moment, read up on some who have not only succeeded financially, but are making a positive contribution to the world.

  1. Just do it.

A Personal Capital study found 40% of millennials haven’t opened a single retirement savings account and 73% don¹t know their net worth. This is your life, you can create what the one you want, but you need to take action and develop financial habits that will benefit you. There will always be plenty of “things” to spend your money on, investing in solid assets can create peace of mind and fulfillment knowing you are creating the life you imagine. Set up an automated process within your finances to simply and easily invest on a regular basis, your future self will thank you.

As in life, investing isn’t about overnight success; small steps can lead to big results.

To your success,


How to Bring People on Board to Support Your Work Ambition after Recovery

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Mon, Oct 03, 2016

np_smile_close_up.jpgToday's post is by guest Per Wickstrom, founder and CEO of Best Drug Rehabilitation.  This topic is extremely important as many teens and young adults are facing the very real challenge of starting over and re-creating their lives after addiction . The National Institute on Drug Abuse states that over 25 million youth aged 12 and over have used an illicit drug in the last month, that's  over 9% of the population. The health, social  and financial factors  - and how they deal with them, are critical in how the individual can move forward to creating a happy and personally successful life. 

I hope you find the post valuable:

Addiction and recovery is a sensitive issue, and for that reason a lot of people tend to have a mistaken idea on how to properly approach life in recovery. If you have big ambitions for life as a newly recovered individual, you may have experienced the phenomenon of people in your family or close circle of loved ones advising you to use restraint. Maybe they say things like, “Take it easy.” “You shouldn’t stress yourself with a sudden career.” “You just got out of rehab, lay low for a minute.” “You need to be careful and not overwork yourself.” “If you work too hard, you might relapse.”

It’s natural and normal for people to worry about others who are newly recovered from drug and alcohol addiction. It’s natural for your family members and loved ones to be concerned about this. Struggling with addiction is a deadly and dangerous thing, and many addicts die every year because of this. So, if your parents or loved ones worry about you even after you beat addiction, don’t fault them for it, rather be grateful that you have such loving individuals in your life.

However, that does not mean that they are right. One of the best ways to flourish and prosper while in recovery is by pursuing a career. Maybe you have in mind a career of your dreams, a work ambition you’ve always wanted to do, or a passion that you’ve always wanted to follow. For any of the above, these are highly valuable and positive activities to engage in after rehab.


The key is helping your family members and loved ones understand. How do you show those who care about you that a career goal is exactly what you need as a recovered individual? How do you prove that not only is pursuing a career goal not going to drive you into a relapse, but rather it will solidify your stability as a recovered individual and make your foundation in abstinence even stronger?

Here are a few tips:

  1. Explain why you want to pursue your work ambition. A lot of times, family members and loved ones don’t understand why it is that recovered addicts suddenly want to pursue a career or work ambition. We get it. But they don’t. Sometimes if you just approach them, sit them down, and lay out exactly why you want to do what you want to do, they will begin to understand the reasoning behind your passions and your goals. If they can understand it they can see the logic in it and they won’t resist you so much.
  2. Offer data on why a passion or enthusiasm or career goal is conducive to maintaining sobriety. Cite sources of data proving that recovering addicts who are gainfully employed are less likely to relapse than those who are not. Enlist the help of aftercare counselors and addiction specialists to have a conversation with your loved ones so that they can hear the truth from an authority on the subject.
  3. Ultimately, the best way to show that pursuing your work ambition really is a positive thing to do is to just do it. The results will speak for themselves.       Don’t let your family members or loved ones talk you out of pursuing your dreams. Your dreams, goals, and ambitions for the future are the foundation of your sobriety. Pursue them, and your success and happiness will be proof enough for your loved ones.

As a recovering addict, the most important thing for you to work for is to stay just that, a recovering addict. Not a relapse statistic. Not an overdose statistic. Not another active addict statistic. You want to maintain your sobriety and continue to be a recovering addict and continue to be in recovery and not regress or relapse. If pursuing your goals and ambitions will accomplish that then go for it. Your dreams are your future and your sobriety is only as strong as your ability to pursue those dreams.

Per Wickstrom is the founder and CEO of Best Drug Rehabilitation, one of the top holistic rehabilitation centers in the country. He found sobriety after a decades-long struggle with addiction and has since dedicated his life and career to helping others find the same life-affirming success he has. For more information, check out Per’s blog or connect with him on Twitter or Facebook.




Teens and Money: I Am 13, Saving For A Jeep Wrangler At 17!

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sun, Jul 31, 2016



Today's exciting post is by Natasha, age 13, who is enthusiastically saving for her first car. Do you have teens in your house saving for a car or another big purchase? If so, please share your stories below. It's helpful for them to know there are other people out there the same age working hard towards their goals.

Enjoy the post!


 by Natasha JH:

"One of the most important steps to buying your first car is to start saving as young as you possibly can. You also need to plan on how you can cut back on non-essential items – wants.

I didn’t start with any savings, but I have been saving 25% of my allowance since last year and now I have $300. I will be volunteering and working more in the coming years with the hopes that my volunteering will help me find some great opportunities while I’m helping out.

I will be honest, it’ hard not spending my money on things like clothes, makeup and sweets. One tip that has really helped me save is to automatically take 25% of my allowance or any other money I get and put it in a separate jar - and now a bank account. This way the temptation is gone as I consider that money untouchable – I want my Jeep!

My dream car is a white four door Jeep Wrangler. My mom took me for a test drive in one last month. I’m so excited to drive it somedayJeep_image.jpg myself.

I am definitely going to buy a car that is two to three years old because it costs so much less and can be just like new. I will research to find the best price offered. I have done some quick calculations on how long will it take me to get the car. It will depend on how much can I save each month. Here is what I noted down:

If I save $100 a month and the Jeep I want is $25,000, it will take me 20.8 years. Yikes, that’s too long! My goal is to buy it when I’m seventeen.

If I save an average of $750 a month (I’ll be working a lot in the summers!) it will take me 2.8 years. That’s more like it, I can do that!

If I'm saving as much as I can and I'm working 4-5 days a week, that's $100 - $150 savings and four weeks a month which will be $400 - $600 per month. Take that times twelve months and I will save $4,800 - $7,200 per year. In three years I'll have between $14,400 and $21,800 just from my savings from work. 

It all depends on the hours I'm working and the place and hourly wage. Don't forget if you're a waitress you get tips on top of your pay and that can really add up! 

If I get unexpected money for my Birthday or Christmas, I’ll try to save it for my Jeep instead of just going out and having a shopping spree.

The best thing is to plan. If you work hard at whatever you do, cut down on spending and find as many extra ways to make money, you can reach your goal."




5 Money BRULES (Bulls**t Rules) Parents Pass on to Their Kids

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Thu, Jun 09, 2016

400_pxls_np_0559_whitecropx22efa3a8.jpgI was really excited when the Mindvalley team as me to write this article. It was a very thought provoking, interesting experience, and brought in many aspects of the research I have been doing the last eight years. I hope you find the information beneficial to your life.

What is a BRULE? Coined by Vishen Lakhiani, founder of Mindvalley and author of Code of the Extraordinary Mind.  His definition is: "A Brule is a bulls**t rule that society adopts to simplify its understanding of the world."  Problem is, sometimes the simplification gives us the wrong beliefs. Research has shown money beliefs and attitudes are created during the formative years of childhood and developed by the age of seven. Conscious awareness of these programmed beliefs is critical to identifying the BRULES we have around money. Only then can we change what isn’t working for us in our current situation.

  1. It’s rude to talk about money, it’s private: A belief still common in many families today; this programming has been passed on from generations past. Unfortunately though, if we don’t discuss financial life skills with our kids in today’s world, it puts them at a real disadvantage because they are growing up in a much more complex situation than when we were young. Money is spent much more quickly and with less emotion due to technology. Kids only have the information they observe each day and may not interpret everything correctly - or the way parents would want.
  1. You can’t be wealthy and spiritual: Underlying message, “we’re not supposed to want or have money if we’re spiritual, we’re bad if we desire it.” Money is a magnifier of whoever you are, be it spiritual or not. If you have clear values and good intentions, financial well-being will allow you to do more good in the world, be more generous. The opposite is true as well for someone who is self-serving. Struggling financially month to month doesn’t typically allow a person to fully develop and share their talents and passions. That’s not doing any individual or society any good, regardless of their spiritual beliefs.


  1. Wealthy people are greedy, deceiving, dishonest (fill in the blank): Underlying message, “they’re bad if they have a lot of money.” This can come from a position of “we’re an honest hard-working family and we’re not rich, therefore people who are rich must be dishonest and care only about money.” This is a powerful BRULE important to be aware of. Anything you negate and deeply believe is “wrong” or “bad” will not allow you to acquire it and feel good in the long-term. This BRULE can cause people to literally push financial success and life happiness away.
  1. Money is the route of all evil: Underlying message, money is bad, dirty, destructive. This is one of the most common BRULES passed on through the generations and one of the most commonly misquoted verses in our society. The correct statement is, “ for the love of money is a root of all kinds of evil.” Money is currency, it isn’t inherently good or bad, it only has the emotional value of what we place on it. However people can, and have done, evil deeds because of a controlling desire for money.
  1. It’s their fault if they are poor: A self-focused and destructive belief system based on a superiority complex, this BRULE prevents positive societal change. No one really knows the challenges other people live through, the subconscious programming they have from childhood or the social and economic circumstances they have come out of. Gratitude for what you have and respect for another human beings’ journey is of utmost importance if we are all to learn the financial and life success skills we need to achieve our own unique and individual potential.

*Bonus * Money doesn’t make you happy. Just work hard, it doesn’t matter of you make much money, at least you’ll be a good honest worker: This BRULE can combine two beliefs; “having a lot of money won’t make you happy and you aren’t meant to enjoy your work, you are meant to work hard to earn your money and forget about having fun.” In reality money is needed to survive and thrive, and while money alone won’t normally make a person happy in the long-term, people don’t have to choose between wealth and happiness. In today’s world more and more people are destroying this BRULE by doing work they love and achieving great success financially while creating a very meaningful life. Passion and purpose fuels and motivates - thus providing the foundation for the perseverance necessary to achieve the big goals and dreams we are capable of.

What BRULES have had the biggest impact on your life?

Nancy Phillips, BSc., MBA. Creator of the Zela Wela Way - accredited kids, teens and parents financial life skills resources.


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GISS It: Financial Life Skills for Our Children

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Sun, May 15, 2016

400_pxls_np_0559_whitecropx22efa3a8.jpgThe fantastic team at the Real Estate Investment Network (REIN) asked me to write about the importance of teaching our youth financial life skills. They are all about sharing knowledge and education, and this is definitely a topic I'm passionate about! I hope you enjoy it.


As parents, we are automatic educators, and we want our children to learn the skills they’ll need to thrive and reach their full potential in life. This is true for parents around the world. With the financial industry and global culture changing as rapidly as they are today, it’s easy to see that our children need guidance; current, effective, honest information, that has their best interest and future well-being at heart.


The Lessons Must Have These Key Elements

These core financial life lessons must involve a combination of information, beginning with inspirational and motivational messages, so children understand how the information can affect their individual lives. The messages must also be simple, and effective – so the lessons are implemented and become habit. Beneficial learning only occurs if the new information is implemented, thus creating positive decision-making skills and behaviour.

Why Financial Life Skills Must be Taught at Home and at School

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The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life & Succeed on Your Own Terms by Vishen Lakhiani – Book Review by Nancy Phillips

Posted by Nancy Phillips on Mon, May 09, 2016


400_pxls_np_0559_whitecropx22efa3a8.jpgI have to say I was pretty excited when the Mindvalley team contacted me to write this book review, and when I saw the title I couldn’t wait to get my hands on it! For those of you who know my work, I’m extremely passionate about learning the intricacies of the mind, and how we use it to positively impact our life. I literally had just finished reading Super Brain by Deepak Chopra when the email arrived.

The author of The Code of the Extraordinary Mind, Vishen Lakhiani, is the founder of Mindvalley. His company is a virtual education platform now teaching over 500,000 students and 1.5 million fans the things school never did about happiness, success, effective goal setting – you get the idea.

I knew Vishen did incredible work. I had watched many of his presentations online and am a big fan of the Philosophers Notes book summaries I learned about through This is Vishen’s first book but I had high expectations and wasn’t disappointed. The Code of the Extraordinary Mind expanded my knowledge and inspired many new and big ideas, which is exactly what I was looking for.


The content is divided into four main parts. The first two addresses our “culturescape,” how we are shaped by the world around us, and the “awakening,” or how we can choose our version of the world. These sections really dive into why we think and do what we do, even if it doesn’t make sense. He discusses the importance of challenging our beliefs in order to really live an extraordinary life. Thankfully Vishen also goes into detail about how to enhance and optimize our “systems for living” after becoming aware of what is and isn’t serving our best interests and happiness.

The third and fourth sections then beautifully explain the platform through which to define and live your own extraordinary life, along with numerous thought provoking examples. These are the sections that go deep into providing action steps as to how to experience what I would call personal enlightenment, overall happiness and awareness through enhancing the meaning in our lives - and how best we can personally contribute to the world now and in the future.

It’s hard to choose my favorite part; the content was very rich. I would have to say Vishen was very successful in providing that feeling of “you can do anything you dream of. Define it and here’s how...” I greatly appreciate this as a parent, and because it’s what I am passionate about sharing when talking to kids and teens in my presentations. I love to hear messages that will be helpful in inspiring people to have the courage to go after their biggest visions, along with tools that will help provide the framework to take those essential, challenging first steps and beyond.

A couple of my favorite segments are: the three most important questions, the profound act of not attaching your current happiness to the completion of your goals, and how the kensho and satori moments of your life propel your personal growth (you’ll have to read it to find out).


This book will positively affect the life of anyone who takes the time to read it and implement some or all of the activities into their daily life. I would love to see The Code of the Extraordinary Mind be required reading for high school seniors and first year college/university students. Imagine what our world would look like if all people had access to the knowledge and framework of how to successfully pursue inner happiness, and achieve their full potential in life. That’s what The Code of the Extraordinary Mind helps provide.




Thank you for the commitment that went into creating this book Vishen, I have no doubt you will achieve your goal of impacting a billion lives.

Nancy Phillips, creator of the Zela Wela Way financial and life success resources for kids, teens and parents.

Buy The Code of the Extraordinary Mind: 10 Unconventional Laws to Redefine Your Life & Succeed on Your Own TermsHere

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