Happy New Year! I hope you're excited at all the possibilities that exist for you this coming year. You may have been listening to friends, family and radio show hosts talking about resolutions and why are why they don't work.
I’ve found this topic tugs at me because now it’s talked about almost as a joke, that it’s really unlikely anyone will be successful. It's kind of sad and I feel the beginning of the year is the perfect time to start off an exciting new journey with inspiring goals and dreams. This short post is to share some of my thoughts and learnings of what works or hasn't worked for me in the past and present.
Research shows that at the end of the year only about 8% of people achieve their New Year's resolutions. So why is it that resolutions don't work for the majority? Well it appears to be mainly due to the fact that most people set resolutions based on what they feel they “should” do. As Anthony Robbins famously said, “quit shoulding all over yourself."
When you set a goal that comes from a place of left brain logic and no inspiration, there just isn't the motivation to continue with the drudgery through twelve months. The other big reason for failure appears to be "dreaming too small," often we simply don’t dream big enough to really excite us about what the next chapter of our life could be like. We have to remember not to let our circumstances define our dreams, sometimes easier said than done right? If we reverse the story, then we can have our dreams and goals define our future circumstances. Then the sky is the limit!
Be clear on this: It must excite you
The first step to making 2017 the best year yet is to decide what you really want, in detail. If thinking about this dream life gives you a deep feeling of excitement and inspiration, that's a great sign - clarify the detail and write it down. Your “why” must be big enough to motivate you and keep you motivated, basically you must go deep within or it isn’t going to happen.
This step allows you to find out not only if you have set your intentions high enough, but what you need to learn and how you need to grow to make it happen. For example, instead of saying "I need to earn an extra $10,000 this year," you might say “I am excitedly preparing for my dream xxx by attracting two new clients that will increase my income by $10,000.” Whatever works for you, as long as it fits well within your personal values and makes you feel deeply excited – not what you “should” do based on culture, other people’s opinions or worse, guilt.
So, what do you want? More family fun time? Travel? To grow personally and spiritually? Better health so you can run a race? To develop your career in a different direction? This is a chance to write your life script. What matters most to you? What would you love your life to be like?
Step two is all about belief. You have to believe deep down that you can actually make this happen. This is critical for your future outcomes. You can choose to create an extraordinary life versus one of mediocrity, it really is all in your hands - and your mind! You don’t need other people’s approval, it all comes directly from you.
Step three is to decide how to start, just one step. All great accomplishments are made up of thousands of baby steps, you just have to decide on what small step each day will move the needle for you towards your inspiring goal. When I went to Brendon Burchards Expert's Academy a few years ago I can remembering him saying, "You might “know” this stuff, but are you doing it?" Great question from a great mentor.
Stick with it, your dream life depends on it
Step four is to be consistent and repetitive in the visualization of your dream life, and how the small actions required to reach your soul goal will enable the continued path of growth and fulfillment. Each day there are opportunities for action that can compound your efforts and the speed to which you reach your inspiring goal! Decide and take action, sounds simple but there's a reason perseverance is known as one of the key traits of success - most people won't keep doing what it takes.
Step five is be grateful for what you already have while you excitedly prepare for the future. This mindset puts you in perfect harmony to make your goals and dreams happen. One of the most powerful daily habits of highly successful, happy people is to write in a daily gratitude journal. It only takes a couple of minutes in the morning and evening and is a fabulous way to bring in and end the day on a very positive note. This is the statement I use:
Today I am so thankful for …
If you aren't already doing this daily and you give it a try, you will be amazed how much happier and more peaceful you feel. I can speak personally about it because I started doing it in writing two years ago and it's AWESOME! Also, it has been scientifically proven to make a person feel happier and more fulfilled in this "more is better" world.
*Dream *Believe *Do (and keep doing) *Be Thankful - That's It!
The beginning of this year gives you the opportunity to fall in love with your life all over again, you can create the masterpiece you dream of.
Happy 2017, have fun and feel the joy life wants you to experience!